LOVE, DOES IT REALLY EXIST?

Stupid as it sounds, but it’s a question that most couples ask. Like in other confused situations, one tries but in vain to get answers to the question, “is love real?” or everything dressed in love coats is nothing but infatuation.

Asking my wife, some said, “How was your wedding cake?” Recalling the joy of the wedding day and the following rosy days, she answered without thinking, “It was well baked and probably the best I’ve ever had.” She even went to explaining the things that were not part of the discussion like who id the cake, the price, decorations etcetera, etcetera.

To her surprise the questionnaire had something different in mind. “It seems you didn’t notice and enjoyed your cake so well. The cake has a number of layers; ad professional wedding cake bakers know exactly what that cake means. It’s usually sweet on the outer parts and goes bitter as you go to the centre.” Eye brows raised, my wife opened her mouth but no words came out. “This is exactly what marriage is all about. Sweeter at the beginning and bitter as you go on,” concluded the person.

Mmmmm, sounds true right! Just think of that day when she moved in. That day you couldn’t let her do the cooking alone. Washing together and doing everything together. The outer part of the cake. What happened one year later? You know it. Slowly making your way to the centre of the cake. The once romancing palm is now the weapon of war. Marriage has become the funniest battle field where you sleep with your enemy. You find sitting down scratching the head and says, “Had I known…” What!? “Will I ever be happy in this marriage?”

We know so well that marriage is about LOVE. It’s not just about the outer skirts of the wedding cake, but it’s about the happiness you find in each other. It’s about the joy, it’s about giving. It’s about dedication and above all its about the whole of you, not just a part of you. It’s about giving the best to your partner. And yes, it has ingredients just as in baking the wedding cake. You cannot just mix flour and milk and sugar and then you say the cake is ready. You need to know what and when to put into the mixing bowl. Pay attention to quantity of the ingredients and make sure they are not expired.

Is love real? Yes, it is, just as a wedding cake is real. Here is what you need to know. Marriage is not like a wedding cake. It is a wedding cake. Therefore, I differ with the one who asked my wife about our wedding cake even though my wife somehow got convinced. Consider the following…

The Best cake does not need the best cook but the best recipe.

Know what type of a cake you want, and get the right recipe for it.

This is where most married people miss.

Just getting married for the sake f getting married doesn’t give you what you are looking for.

I don’t think it would be wise to get the cake ingredients mixed in scone way will give you what you want.

It’s the reason why people say. “I think am not his type” It’s not about being some one’s type or anti type. It’s about knowing what you want. Don’t be stupid. Just get the right recipe for the type of marriage you want, you will have it.

But you need to take caution when getting those ingredients together. I have been in the kitchen doing cakes so it helps. Every good recipe has time periods with it. For best results you don’t need to overdo nor under do. Stick to the right time.

Make sure the oven is heated at the right temperature. Over heating burns the cake and it goes goof. Heating it less than the recommended temperature has its bad side too and your dream cake goes to that night mare cake you hate. So do your marriage heating right and get the best.

The person who portrayed the wedding cake picture to my wife missed one point. As much as its true about the bitterness of the centre, but it depends on how you are eating your cake too. For instance, someone will take the cake from one side toward the centre and then to the other end/side. What this person will experience is sweetness, then bitterness and finish with the sweetness. The last sweetness will bury the bitterness experienced and live the person with only good memories of the end part of the cake. Maybe this explains why my wife had only good to say about our wedding cake when asked.

On the contrary, others prefer getting done with the all sweet parts being blind of what the centre keeps for them. They thus live to love the cake but put the blame on the baker citing all sorts of reasons like cheap ingredients, not skilled, etcetera. Whatever the case is, know how best to enjoy your cake.

As any other aspect of life, marriage is like an exam.

The reason people fail is that they tend to be busy copying others answer sheets not knowing that everyone has a different question paper. So be wise.

 

Hebrews 13:4. Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

‘” I love you!” How special are those words between two young people! But even more wonderful they become when spoken to us by us savior who wants us to be happy and find joy in our relationships with each other.

Christ has compared his love for the church to the love of husband and wife. The scripture contains tender love stories such as that of Jacob and Rachel, and moving story of Ruth, the Moabite, who through her marriage to Boaz became a link in the genealogy of the Messiah.

Our heavenly father is concerned over our LOVE LIFE” Letters to Young lover

 

“True love is a high and holy principle, altogether different in character from that love which is awakened by impulse and which suddenly dies when severely tested.

“True love is not a strong, fiery, impetuous passion. On the contrary, it is calm and deep in its nature. It looks beyond mere externals and is attracted by qualities alone. It is wise and discriminating, and its devotion is real and abiding.

“Mildness, gentleness, forbearance, long-suffering, being not easily provoked, bearing all things, hoping all things, enduring all things-these are the fruit growing upon the precious tree of love, which is of heavenly growth. This tree, if nourished, will prove to be an evergreen. It branches will not decay, its leaves will not wither. It is immortal, eternal watered continually by the dews of heaven.  Letter to young Lovers CH8

so if you got your cake wrong due to the wrong recipe you had, get the right one and redo the cake. You can be your best chef if your own kitchen and sit for your exam paper well prepared.

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