A day before the wedding day, a happy mother called his son and this is what she said to him, “My son, you are now leaving me for another woman. You have found yourself another mother altogether. From now onwards, you shall be that other woman’s responsibility. Here are a few things you need to know.” Eagerly, the Son who was mama’s boy listened. This moment was always what he loved. That moment when Mama and Nana are best friends; when, they share what life has taught them and with tears of joy encourage each other in their weakness.
Let’s get back to what Mama was saying to Nana…
“Firstly, though you are masculine and handsome, bear in mind that, that other woman is now your mother. She will replace me and will have to take my position in your life. I fed you till you started feeding me. But she will do that for the rest of your life. I can’t bath you now, but she will. I don’t do your washing now, but she will. I can’t come into your bedroom unnoticed, but your room now belongs to her. To her, you are her child. So in whatever you do, please obey your mother.”
This was the first part. As a mother never neglects the need of her baby, so should wives do to their husbands: The heath of your hubby lies fully in your arms: He is your responsibility. It wasn’t easy for the first woman in his life to entrust him into your care. If she loved him, you ought to love him even more. Make him forget that first woman through love and love through action.
“You were once my boy, but now you are my father. I look up unto you for support and your father knows he has a brother to give him a hand when he can’t make it. We are proud to tell you that as you leave this house for your house, it doesn’t mean you are relieved of your duty as a father. You are in real sense becoming more responsible for a greater family. Always remember with great power begins responsibility. Your new family will live to respect you if you respect them and yourself. As a father, give them your best. Let your absence in the home create such a gap even wider than the one you are creating here. “
Wow, so a husband is a father unto the wife too. I then wonder why a wife could be so rude and harsh to her husband who is a father. How can a daughter, who is the wife expect her father to do the cooking while she is busy on a movie and worse still on WatsApp and keeps on shouting, “Hurry, am hungry”. Such actions are questionable, and probably the worst nightmare a wife can cause to her husband.
“I have always wanted to be your best friend, someone you could share everything with. I have always wanted to be someone you can count on. Someone you will live to remember not as a mother, but as a friend. I am not sure if I made it, but one thing I know for sure is that you have found yourself a very best friend of all. You have to be her best friend in all seasons and times.”
No just a man in your house. He’s and should always be your best friend.
Now, let me sum it up here; Ladies, the man you call husband is more than the term husband. He is;
1. Your son. No wonder men are somehow careless and that’s part of them being your son. They need your guidance and care. They need your support and accompany. If they call you mommie, it’s not mere romance, but they mean it. You are their mama. So as a mama does with a crying baby in her arms, do to your man. You will make him forget every other woman in his life. Don’t make him develop the thoughts that “the other woman is better than you” because you never know who that “other woman” might be.
2. Your Father. Whether you like it or not, he is your father. The one you are supposed to look up to for everything. The one whose shoulder you are supposed to keep your head on. And as a father, he deserves all the respect a daughter can offer. In everything; be it in words or actions. So I don’t expect you to yell at him, or send him washing. Just a father chooses to help his daughter with her home work out of love, so let your husband assist you with your work out of love and free will.
3. Your best friend. Someone you need to spend much of your time with. In fact, I know you are always afraid to disappoint your best friends, so be very much afraid to disappoint your husband. If you find it easier to do without him, my dear, you are in trouble. He is the one you claim to be and love in your life. He should not be just a bed mate, or a bed mesho, he has to be a real, and a true best friend. That way you will learn more about him and will learn to appreciate him for every little thing he does. I mean it. Be close and closer and be the closest person in his life. Remember, there was a woman in his life before you, and fight to be the best of all.
Be wise enough to win your husband knowing he is more than a husband.
