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HELP! I’m so confused – My Nigerian young boyfriend impregnated me and my daughter; What can I do?

What does “dilemma” mean? Since you have asked this question, it is certain that you had not looked up in the dictionary for the meaning.

Let me do that for you. It is: a situation in which a difficult choice has to be made between two or more alternatives, especially ones that are equally undesirable. Equally undesirable. Sounds hard. Doesn’t it?

This is a classic case of a mother finding herself stuck between a rock and a hard place after she discovered that she  and her daughter were pregnant at the same time, but that’s not all. It turns out that they are both pregnant for the same man.

Weird and shocking, right? I know she must be freaking out as she decided to share her story on the internet to ask people their opinion on what to do about the crazy situation she found her entwined in.

Here is her sad tale: “I am in my early 50s. I am divorced; have been for more than a decade. I live on my own with my three children.

About a year ago, I went into a relationship with a man four years younger than I am. Being married, we meet in my place. As a matter of fact he has the key to my flat.

It was better than going to hotels. Besides, my daughters were grown up to appreciate that I need a man in my life. Well, I thought I could trust him so I gave him permission to come to my house whenever he likes I am in or not.

I also assumed my daughters were responsible enough to see him as their father. Unfortunately, I miscalculated.

“Unknown to me while he was having affairs with me, he was also sleeping with my two older daughters. I didn’t know what was happening until I took my elders daughter to the hospital following her persistent complains of malaria.

I also haven’t been feeling well; so decided to visit the hospital with my daughter. When the result came out, we were both pronounced pregnant. I was shocked because I didn’t expect to be at y age since I have been having irregular period in the last two years.

“At 28, my daughter has never been pregnant. I was happy for her thinking it was the man I knew her with was responsible. Then, it didn’t even occur to me that he [my daughter’s fiancé] has been out of Lagos for three months. It wasn’t until we got home that the real problem started.

We met my boyfriend at home. While I was still thinking of how to break my news to him, a text message came to his phone. After reading the text, he became very agitated so much so he lost concentration.

“I was so concerned. I forget what I was about to say and snatched the phone from him to know what got him me very suspicious; I quickly transferred the message to my phone before handing it over to him.

I did the transfer while he was struggling to take the phone away from me so, he wasn’t aware of what I did. I almost fainted when I read the text and discovered it was my daughter telling him that we were both pregnant for him and he should tell me to abort the baby since she was going to keep hers.

She told him if he tried to play smart with her, the whole world would know that he has been sleeping with her mother, sister and herself.

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“The worst thing now is that he is nowhere to be found. I have tried getting him on his phone numbers but none is going through. The friend I know him with says he doesn’t know his whereabout and has bluntly refused to take me to his house.

My second daughter has left home for an unknown destination following the revelation by her sister that she too has been sleeping with him. I am very confused as my daughter and I are stuck without situation.

How do I explain to the world that my daughter and I are pregnant for this same man and that he is nowhere to be seen? What should I do please?”

What advice do you have for this helpless woman who has found herself in this mess? Please feel free to share in your thoughts and comments on the matter

Source: Kenyan Weekly

Maravi Post Reporter
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  1. Take heart, always look at the bright side of life. A child is always a blessing and it will bring much joy and give you company as you grow older. You’ll help take care of your daughter’s child as she persue’s her life goals. Accept these children as gifts. Let them grow up together and will fill your home with laughter. Forget their dad, he does not deserve to be called a father. No need to be sad, do not moan, no one has died. A child comes with it’s own plate so do not worry or fear how they’ll grow. No one knows what plans God has for those children no matter the circumstances that they’ll be born in.

  2. You people give black people a bad reputation. You dont get respect because you dont give it. This man was married and you didnt care and then you took him back to your home to teach your daughters how to only care about your animal needs, so you are reaping what you sowed, live and learn.

  3. Sadly to hear the pain you and your daughters are going through by what the hegoat of a man you called your boyfriend and the nymphomaniac of daughters you have.

    firstly, I must confess, at your age, you should be ashamed to say it to the world that you are dating a man, yet you do not know his house or any member of his family. Thats where your woes started from.

    Nonetheless, hmthe man has failed in every aspect of a responsible man. and also, he’s as guilty as your two daughters. so take heart. think well before you decide. this is barbaric

    • Sad to hear those man has hurt u but your daughters are as horrible as this man. They are not kids or giddy head teenagers. At your age it’s best to get rid of the pregnancy, both you and your daughter. It’s just disgraceful and distasteful what she did. Keep your head up high, learn from your mistake and move on a stronger person.

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